Dear Elder Williams,
I am sorry that this isn't actually a snail mail. I am having a hard time getting the motivation for giving you snail mail. I understand that it comes in different forms, and you can hold and pet and lick snail mail but you honestly don't seem the type. Well I could be wrong I guess, but we will see.
Anyway, in your letter I was asked a few questions. The two that I remember (wait now I have another, that is three) are dealing with marriage and kids. I guess I will deal with the what is marriage like.
So luv, true luv. It definitely turns into marriage if you let it hang around and set in. Anyway not a bad thing, actually I would do a commercial to promote it if it would help todays society. Never the less, I digress. It is flashy at times. Fun, exciting, and fresh everyday (that actually takes a certian type of person that is actually in love and wants to keep trying to serve the other, but it does perpetuate itself). The honest answer is that it is dang fun. I mean you get to do everything with your best friend, hang out, cook, clean, play and whatever else you decide to do together (I wasn't intending to send you mind there, but really you should plan on spending almost all your time together cause that is where real fun happens...).
It is awesome. I am actually sad for some people that have gone so long without being married. Like for example Sam Neff. I think he is just missing out on great things that he will just have to wait on until he gets hitched. But people like nathan and keven, they aren't missing out yet. It is okay for people to not be hitched at age 24. They aren't that old. Even though I did have a kid at that age.
So being married is awesome. Just make sure that you marry the person that is awesome for you and you can build your own amazing relationship like I have had the opportunity to do with Alison.
So to try and actually answer your question about what is marriage like? Two answers, first it is like getting to the top of the highest mountian you have ever climbed and seeing more than you have ever seen before. Something that really can't be described. The second answer is basically you can't describe it until you get there. You can honestly be told that you have no idea. Oh and it is surprising every day.
Having children? To answer this I will be honest and blunt first, then dreamy. Okay so you know what free time is like? Well the opposite of that. No free time. The more you have the worse it is. I am only now beginning to see what mom and dad just don't go on vacations now or really back then. It is not really vacaion most of the time and so why go? Ali and I are honestly working hard to still have a lot of fun. To tell you the truth, I am blown away that Alison still likes to go on these adventures as much as well do. To me it seems like so much more work than it is worth for her. But that is my point of view I guess.
Having kids is like having all you time being Zach or Andrea time. I work long hours to get things done at work because when I get home it is Zach and Andy time. Not really much Alison time sadly. That is one aspect of having kids.
The dreamy side is when you kids roll over the first time, learn to do things, bite thier sisters head, invent a new thing to do with a toy, give a 5 month old (soon to be 6) a ball and she screams with delight for 20 minutes because she figures have to hold it by wrapping her body around it, teaching a new thing that isn't new but is amazing to them, doing somersaults, playing in the sand, (when you take zach camping take him to the sand dunes and you can't miss) looking at the same old thing for the first time, discovering the world all over again, and well lots of other way fun things. It is honestly awesome to be a parent. This as well though don't rush. You life will never be the same. You eternal standing will never be the same. In the same breath have as many kids as you can love and support without going nuts.
Okay the thrid question, how to keep your focus. It is just like avoiding immoral thoughts, smoking or sex. You have to keep yourself constantly at it. You just have to be a person that gets up and does their days work each and everyday all day. What can you do? Just show yourself the person you desire to be each day even when you don't feel like that person. I feel like I have only said man up. Well it is just like on the ranch, you have to feed the cows each day. How does John or Paul work each day? They just get up and do it. That is what it is about. I guess it comes down to the fact that their are people that do things in this world and others that wished they did or dream that they might. The last 6 months of you mission will show what kind of Missionary you are. So just keep showing it. We each at somepoint get put in the blender and put through to puree, and what the Lord want's to see is what we will become after that.
So I guess I have written you a bit so far. I hope that this is uplifting, almost as much as snail mail. Hopefully however you will get the same happy feelings from this letter as a snail mail because of what is in it as well as the fact that I didn't use many natural resources sending it to you. That is my tree hugger thought for the day.
Um I guess I am also asking you what you would like for your birthday since you will be home soon and may just not want for things. Tell me what you would like in a package if you want one, or if you would just prefer money in the old account. If you want it in the account, let me know if you want it the the wells fargo one. I will get the number from mom and dad and put it in if that is the case.
So one last story, I have a class at UNLV with a true rasta man in it. Except maybe it isn't a true rasta man because it is a white guy. But he had a hemp bag, the hat that holds all the disgusting dreads, was filthy, and of course his eyes looked like he had been stoned a lot in the past as well as quite recently. He also talked like a guy who had been burned but a bit of refero...I honestly could stop staring at him with a good amount of awe and disgust. Anyway...
I guess I have taken enough of your time. I hope that you are doing well. Are you stuck totally to only email? If your not then check out Zach doing a somersault at this link... http://hiddenlightphotography.blogspot.com/
I love you brother!
Chris
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